
It’s been so hard to blog lately because the baby is still a light sleeper and when he is napping I try to do stuff like eating or doing some journal writing. I’ve been working out some weird anxiety since Rainer’s birth, but I feel like I’m almost out of it now, feeling rather sunny comparatively! The lovely patch of Spring weather we’ve had for the last 10 days or so is definitely helping.
Another thing that is helping is that Elias has made huge strides in his expressive and receptive skills in the last couple of weeks. I have been meaning to go back to my last entry and add a link to http://www.cherab.org/ for anyone who wants a great starting point to learn about childhood communication disorders. The Late Talker was an invaluable book for us when we first suspected that Elias had a delay and helped us to determine if we thought he needed early intervention or if we were safely in the “wait and see” camp. It turns out we were probably MOSTLY in the “wait and see” camp but sought services anyway and dropped services when we realized that his issues were not going to be using sounds but more receptive in nature. It’s confusing, and every child is so different, I don’t want to be misleading like “Hey, just wait it out” just because that is what happened in our case. Elias was not ready to communicate with speech until he was 3, and I feel like nothing could have changed that.
As far as progress, I’m amazed by how huge a leap he can make in a few DAYS. His receptive skills just jumped up to about average, I can now just say “Hey Elias, can you go get me a diaper for Rainer?” and he runs in the house and gets it for me. Very useful, LOL! He can even do a two step direction like “Can you put your bowl in the sink and bring me your cup?” which my 10 year old STILL struggles with (or chooses to ignore, ha)! Elias can answer the question “What did you do at school today?” with things like “Played with cars,” and he makes up stories all of a sudden. Yesterday, his first grand story of all time, really, with details like “I’m a fairy swan, in February! This is my egg and my castle!” Stuff like that is just amazing after waiting so long to hear what is going on in his head.
This afternoon we took a bath together and I was asking him questions like “How many brothers do you have, what are their names?” and he struggled with the complexity of that but did come out with “Baby brother Rainer?”
I got his first report card on Friday. It’s basically just an update on how we’re progressing with his goals that we set at the ARD meeting when he started. The marks said “Age Appropriate” in every box except language, which said that he is doing really well and making more and more progress in that regard. I cried for real when I read it, our kid is an average kid! Wooohooo! He is strong in math and phonics, but struggles a little with sitting still and listening. This describes my ten year old, as well as my own damn self!
When I was in elementary school my report card said (each year from 1st grade on) “Struggles to stay focused, works below potential.” This is the same thing that my son’s reports always say and we’re working on it but whew, school can be so boring. It really can. Who wants to sit still and learn about the Civil War when your ten? You want to go out in the yard and re-enact it with sticks and rocks, right? I totally get it, and I wish we could give children a better and more fulfilling education.
Speaking of fulfilling education, have you heard of http://www.khanacademy.org/ ? What an amazing resource. I wish I was smart enough about anything to contribute. If you have a special skill, or want to learn one, give it a shot and let me know how you like it.
Something else I’ve been really fixated on is the amazing http://www.griffinschool.org/academics.php which I drive by all the time and marvel at. It’s inside an old ex-church in a great little neighborhood a couple miles from us. It’s my dream to have Owen go there if we stay in Austin that long. WOW, so cool.
I intended this to be more eloquent and thoughtful but with the distractions around me I feel like the best I can do is say “Ya, my kid is gonna be okay.” And that feels pretty amazing.

(photo taken by ryan)
Eyelashes are coming in, eyebrows not so much.
his face is changing, especially his nose. poor thing musta been so squashed up in that uterus, ha

4 days old.


This photo of cracks me up because my copy of Disease Proof Your Child is right there on the fridge. Although I had read the book at this point and we were eating vegan, we still had not adopted a lot of the core values. Since I was breastfeeding a lot I needed food, and a lot of it, and that’s hard to do when you’re eating whole plant foods for the majority of your diet. I was making a lot of curries for dinner and eating them the next day for lunch but it still wasn’t enough food in hindsight. I want to be more prepared this time.
Snack: Kale and Pineapple juice blended with ice: Look at the vitamin k and folate in this one! Nutrients that are especially good for pregnant women, but we could all use a little extra folate, let’s be real. Note: supplemental folic acid is not a good form of folate. Read more 
Snack: Molasses shake with peanut butter and coconut milk
Dinner: Extra Firm organic tofu, broccoli, sesame seeds, Braggs aminos
As you can see, my nutritional intake is pretty good, but I still take a vitamin d supplement and a b12. I wouldn’t need the vitamin d if it wasn’t 107 degrees here for the last 85 days in a row because I’d be getting my natural supply. Being pregnant in this heat does not make me want to bask in the sun, I’m sure you understand. I’ve been taking a 1,000 mg b12 3 times a week and a whole food b complex (megafoods and new chapter make good ones) on the off days because they have food based b vitamins and a little b12 but not methylcolbalmin, just cyanocobalmin.